(1) Jewellery is for the Infantless
Special occasions are now defined by my ability to wear dangly jewellery. Before getting all sassed up, I must appraise the situation: this evening, will my dinner date lunge for my necklace and cram it in his/her mouth? These days, the answer is almost always, “Yes.”
(2) If You Think An Item is Too Large to Fit in a Baby’s Mouth, You’re Automatically Wrong
It’s like a freakin’ black hole in there. It defies the laws of physics. Manderine orange, baby food jar, the head of rubber duckie — somehow, it fits. But just because it goes in easily doesn’t necessarily mean it will come out.
(3) Items Small Enough to Fit In Mouth Will Go In Other Orafices, Too
Because the ability to recognize that a Cheerio in the nose is unpleasant is, apparently, not innate knowledge.
(4) The Inverse Law of Sleepiness
A parent’s level of fatigue is in direct opposition to the child’s, and no amount of caffeine in the world will hype you up to the level of an excited toddler. Man, you could power a small city on the wattage produced.
(5) Trust Me, She’s Fast
No, really. Trust me. No, don’t just oogle her when you’re holding her because you — watch the soup! — you have to make sure you pay attention to those hands, because she — oh, teacup! — she automatically goes for the most dangerous thing within — oh, sorry, she loves eyeglasses — within arms reach. Were those frames expensive?
(6) When Mothers Say They’d Kill/Die For Their Children, They Really Mean It
When I was little, a German Shephard attacked my brother. My mother, who is very quiet and sweet and demure, took a canoe oar and fought it off him, roaring in rage, as wild as an Amazon. She charged between my brother and a savage dog, swinging the weapon above her head, and the look on her face was bestial, primal and unyielding. I was always in awe of this secret facet of my mom’s personality, but now, I get it. The mother dolphin who wedges herself between her offspring and a shark? The lioness who fends off a pack of wild dogs to save her cubs? I understand, and not in a cerebral way, because I don’t think I can fully describe that instinct, but in the past, when I’d say I’d give my life for something, it was only words. It was hollow sounds. Now, it’s blood and flesh and bone. I can feel that maenid lurking in my heart, perpetually prepared to be unleashed and defend my child. It’s powerful, and dangerous, and you know what? It’s also comforting, because it’s the primeval manifestation of maternal love.

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January 10, 2008 at 3:57 pm
ladonnamobile
This is SO true! I haven’t touched my jewelry box in years! Even when going out without children, I forget to put on jewelry because I have gotten so out of the habit!
January 12, 2008 at 6:53 pm
missknowitall
I couldn’t help but cry at that last one. It is so very very true. Just the other day I heard my youngest little girl screaming in agony. I ran down stairs and grabbed my son, who was wacking her with lincoln logs much too hard. I set him down and with that crazy mom look I asked him, “Will I ever let anyone hurt you?” he said no very seriously because he has seen me defend him before. Then I said, “Just like I would protect you from anyone that tried to hurt you I will protect my baby girl from ever getting hurt, even if I have to protect her from you.” That made a big impression on him…and me.
I found you from my sister’s site (la donna mobile) and I must say you are a lovely writer.